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Snooty experts in Wikipedia will tell you that the Swingers’ Lifestyle is a recent invention, birthed largely with the rise of the Internet. They need to get a clue: Swingers were an open and thriving part of the Sexual Revolution of the 1960s, when Baby Boomers settled down in the suburbs and immediately yearned for excitement to match their Woodstock memories. They invented “key parties,””wife swapping,” and swinging in general. But even that’s only part of the story.

The fact is that it’s monogamous marriage, the Christian-based belief that you will only have one partner your whole life with no room for exploring before marriage, that’s a relatively recent invention of modern society. Check into the Hedonistic cultures of ancient Rome and Greece, the Pagan-based societies of ancient Europe, or the practices of just about any culture on Earth before Abrahamic religion reached its shores, and you’ll find a far more libertine and promiscuous attitude towards sex.

So before the rise of Judeo-Christian culture, the concept of complete monogamy wasn’t so entrenched. Yes, marriages and faithful partnerships still happened, but they tended to occur later in life, after people had the opportunity to sow some wild oats before settling down. It was only after people felt compelled by society to get married early and stay married that the taboo formed about sleeping around.

But in any case, the Swingers’ Lifestyle is seeing a new resurgence in popularity. It’s always going to be a fringe culture, granted, but it raises far fewer eyebrows than it did in more Puritan times. Modern swingers tend to call themselves “polyamorous,” and the Polyamory Lifestyle is the center of magazines, clubs, organizations, and a whole culture. “Open relationships” is another keyword that will lead you to the Poly Lifestyle.

A big part of the Poly movement is the acknowledgment of bisexual people and a non-binary approach to sexuality in general. Bi folks who get married will almost always ask for an open policy in their relationship. This helps the bi partner get their well-rounded needs met, and enhances arousal for the straight partner, who sometimes gets a threesome out of the deal or at least gets the vicarious thrill out of their partner’s exploits.

In seeking a Poly relationship, a level of maturity and honest openness is required. It’s tricky to find consent between everybody involved. You should only open a relationship where neither party will feel jealous, threatened, or insecure. Many people dive into swinging and then find out they weren’t ready for it. Take some time to think things over and separate your fantasies from the reality, and if you have the expectation of swinging, bring it up with your partner as soon as possible and make sure they’re fully on-board with the idea.